SINGAPORE – While it is common to spend more time on mobile devices during the pandemic, Ethan Lim, 16, knows that meal times are family bonding moments when he sets these aside.
"We talk about his day, find out about his friends and the topics he's interested in. This helps to keep a check on what's happening in his online world while we try to connect with him in real life during this period," says his father Walter Lim, 49, chief content strategist of Cooler Insights, a digital and content marketing agency. He is also a member of the Media Literacy Council.
Experts say kids around the world face increased cyber risks from spending extended periods on their devices while staying home.
Cyber bullying is the biggest danger for kids here, something parents can help to guard against by being more involved in their children's lives and online activities.
An agency of the United Nations had highlighted the potential dangers earlier this month.
Mrs Doreen Bogdan-Martin, a director at the Geneva-based International Telecommunication Union, said in an online briefing: "Many children are coming online earlier than their parents had intended, at much earlier ages and without the necessary skills to protect themselves, whether it is from online harassment or cyber bullying."
L1ght, an artificial intelligence-based start-up that detects and filters toxic online content to protect children, reports a 70 per cent increase in instances of hate speech between kids and teens worldwide from December last year to March this year. It analysed millions of websites, teen chat sites and gaming platforms.
The sobering warnings are particularly relevant as Singapore children are among the most wired in the world.
They receive their first Internet-linked gadget at the average age of eight – two years earlier than the global average, according to a 2019 survey by search engine Google.
Ms Ann Hui Peng, director of Student Service @ Children's Society, says parents "who normally restrict screen time for their children suddenly need to relax their house rules" because of the stay-home measures.
This is because kids now have home-based learning (HBL), use video calls to keep in touch with extended family and friends, and stave off boredom by playing games on gadgets.
"This correspondingly has brought about the concern that some children may become addicted over time to communication and gaming devices, and these children may eventually face difficulties in readjusting back to pre- pandemic practices," she says.
The good news is that the Children's Society has not seen an increase in cyber bullying reports from beneficiaries at its service centres during the circuit breaker. Neither has Touch Integrated Family Group, says Mrs Anita Low-Lim, its senior director.
However, Mr Daniel Koh, a psychologist at Insights Mind Centre, says more parents have approached his centre in the last two months because they are "concerned about the need to use more digital means and depending on it for outreach and communications".
In addition, victims may not always report incidents, points out Associate Professor Kathryn Seigfried-Spellar, who teaches computer and information technology at the Purdue (University) Polytechnic Institute in the United States.
"Kids are usually not forthcoming with issues of cyber bullying because they're afraid of losing their technology. Some teens would rather be cyber bullied than have their Facebook page or Instagram account shut down," she says.
Ms Vyda S. Chai, a clinical psychologist at Think Psychological Services, notes that as parent-child tensions rise during the pandemic, kids "as young as seven and teens are turning to their social network platforms as a means of escape, making them highly more vulnerable to cyber bullying".
Meanwhile, many parents are exhausted from juggling HBL with working from home and may not pay attention to what their children are doing online or on social media.
"Although cyber bullying has been around for a long time, we are living in unprecedented times, and when kids are anxious, stressed or bored, the opportunity to cyber bully is present," she says.
According to the Child Online Safety Index by international think-tank DQ Institute, cyber bullying is the biggest online danger for kids here. Forty per cent of those aged eight to 12 have been exposed to it, while 52 per cent of teenagers aged 13 to 19 surveyed were similarly affected.
The index surveyed 145,400 children worldwide, including 11,963 children and adolescents here from March 2017 to December last year. It was partly funded by Singtel.
The repercussions of cyber bullying extend far beyond short-term fears.
Just over a week ago, Japanese wrestler and Netflix reality show star Hana Kimura, 22, took her own life, allegedly after being cyber bullied.
Ms Ang Jia Yi, a counsellor with the Singapore Children's Society, recounts the case of Joshua (not his real name), 18, who was subject to "offensive, vulgar, rude and insulting messages" via WhatsApp by a bully in a group project chat last year.
The other friends in the chat gradually followed suit and Joshua lost interest in his studies and hobbies, and even had suicidal thoughts.
Even though his parents reported the incident to his school and the bully apologised privately, the incident and loss of friendships affected his sense of self-worth.
After five months of counselling, his emotional well-being has improved, but he keeps to himself and is wary about whom to trust, Ms Ang says.
Empathy is key when helping kids overcome cyber bullying, says Mrs Low-Lim, who is also a member of the Media Literacy Council. This means parents should not dismiss incidents or ignore them.
"Instead, parents should talk to their children, seek to understand the situation and be a pillar of support for them in their time of distress."
To minimise online risks, parents should agree on device time with their kids and be good role models themselves, she said.
"Research has shown that communication between parents and children about how to consume media is more effective than only limiting a child's access to the media.&quoRead More – Source